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Furries and lucid dreaming
Lucid dreaming. Some of you may have heard of it. For those who don't, lucid dreaming is when you take control of your dreams, and can do whatever you want. Want to fly? You can do that when you're lucid dreaming. /r/luciddreaming would probably give you a better definition than I did.
You're probably wondering what this has to do with furries. As I have mentioned, you can do anything you want in a lucid dream, and that includes turning yourself into things, namely animals. Personally, one of my favourite things to do while lucid is turn myself into a wolf. Though this requires a bit of practice, it is really awesome.
Sorry if this post was really random.
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Lonely Fur Seeks Friendship
Dear Papa Bear,
I've being actively trying to find where I fit into the furry world. After 7 years I still feel like an outsider. For those 5 of those 7 years I have being pretty active with posting artwork on one of the well know furry art sites. At first I tried to find other groups of furs that would welcome me into their circle, but with no luck. Most of the time these groups would get me to draw there request, and when I stopped I was case aside.
After a few hard life lessons I stopped looking and tried to make a name for myself. And in some way I have. I found my niche drawing what I'm good at, and I've managed to keep making random gift artwork to cheer up those what seem to be having a bad day. I'm proud of what I have accomplished, but It's still kinda lonely when I have watchers, but no group of friends.
So once again I'm longing for a group of furs to hang out with online. So I've started trying to find others to chat with. I've been looking for a more mature (30+ age, NOT Adult themed) crowd to hang with. People my own age. The problem is I've been labeled as "CUTE" and thus I seem to be dismissed by these others guys. I tried to create a new fursona to Bridge the gap, but even he was labeled as "CUTE". It seems like my natural style is cute, and thus everything I create is cute.
I feel like I'm never going to find any friends to pal around with.
Should stop trying?, and Just accept that things are just going to be the way they are?
Do you have an advice on what I'm doing wrong?
Sincerely
Mixed-up Fox
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Dear Mixed-up Fox,
Oh, wow, you are talking to the right person, Mixed-up. Papabear has been an outsider most of his life, and in many ways I still feel that way. When I was a cub and living in Van Nuys, I was made fun of because I was pale and skinny and not very athletic. I wasn’t actually very good at school, until I got so ostracized that I figured I might as well hit the books. I started getting straight A’s and then was ostracized again for being a brainiac. My father moved the family several times, too, and I had trouble making new friends each time we settled somewhere new.
Eventually, I stumbled on furries on the Internet. I was really amazed because I thought I was the only one who really thought anthro characters were cool. So, I started getting into the fandom and making a few online friends. My very first social function was the PS Party that my dear friend Cyberbear took me to. No one talked to me there. Everyone had their own little group, their clique, and I felt very alone. I didn’t go again for many years until this year, in fact. Unlike you, Mixed-up, I’m not a talented artist, so I couldn’t make friends that way. What I did find was the bear community. I had something in common with them, and I founded the BearFurries group on Yahoo, and the Greymuzzles group on Facebook. Then I got into fursuiting and found that was a great way to meet people, too. Then I started this column, which gives me a lot of satisfaction, truly.
Anyway, the way I started making more and more friends was by finding one or two really close friends, and these friends introduce me to new friends, and pretty soon my circle was enlarged.
As you have found out, you can’t make true friends by giving them art or trying to “make a name for yourself.” You might get groupies or users or followers this way, but not real friends.
What you tried next seems to make better sense: finding some mature furries to hang out with. I’m not really clear from your letter, though, whether you just chat with them online or whether you actually meet them in person and hang out with them. You really need to hang out with people in person to make real friends, such as at meets or conventions or just at your house.
Papabear sees you are a bit upset at being labeled “cute.” Believe me, there are a LOT worse things to be than cute. What’s wrong with cute? Your next mistake, though, was trying to come up with a fursona to please other people and get them to like you, rather than having a fursona to purely please yourself. Stick with your original fursona, which, I bet, is more like you.
It might be cliché, but the best thing Papabear can tell you is to be yourself. Look for people who share your interests and who are, perhaps, “cute” just like you. Maybe form a “cute furries anonymous” club on FB, do something silly with it. Have fun!
The WORST thing you can do is come off as desperate, needy, and clingy. When you appear desperate for friendship, you will scare people off. Instead, be yourself. And get as much REAL person-to-person exposure to people as you possibly can. Be open to friendships from unexpected places, and don’t judge people too quickly who offer you a paw.
If you get off your computer and spend time in the real world, you will inevitably find people who share your interests and like you for you, without putting a label on you (such as “cute”) and without befriending you only because they want you to draw something for them.
And that’s the way it’s done, Mixed-up. Don’t give up on yourself. Don’t give up on friendship. There are friends out there waiting to be made!
Hugs,
Papabear
I've being actively trying to find where I fit into the furry world. After 7 years I still feel like an outsider. For those 5 of those 7 years I have being pretty active with posting artwork on one of the well know furry art sites. At first I tried to find other groups of furs that would welcome me into their circle, but with no luck. Most of the time these groups would get me to draw there request, and when I stopped I was case aside.
After a few hard life lessons I stopped looking and tried to make a name for myself. And in some way I have. I found my niche drawing what I'm good at, and I've managed to keep making random gift artwork to cheer up those what seem to be having a bad day. I'm proud of what I have accomplished, but It's still kinda lonely when I have watchers, but no group of friends.
So once again I'm longing for a group of furs to hang out with online. So I've started trying to find others to chat with. I've been looking for a more mature (30+ age, NOT Adult themed) crowd to hang with. People my own age. The problem is I've been labeled as "CUTE" and thus I seem to be dismissed by these others guys. I tried to create a new fursona to Bridge the gap, but even he was labeled as "CUTE". It seems like my natural style is cute, and thus everything I create is cute.
I feel like I'm never going to find any friends to pal around with.
Should stop trying?, and Just accept that things are just going to be the way they are?
Do you have an advice on what I'm doing wrong?
Sincerely
Mixed-up Fox
* * *
Dear Mixed-up Fox,
Oh, wow, you are talking to the right person, Mixed-up. Papabear has been an outsider most of his life, and in many ways I still feel that way. When I was a cub and living in Van Nuys, I was made fun of because I was pale and skinny and not very athletic. I wasn’t actually very good at school, until I got so ostracized that I figured I might as well hit the books. I started getting straight A’s and then was ostracized again for being a brainiac. My father moved the family several times, too, and I had trouble making new friends each time we settled somewhere new.
Eventually, I stumbled on furries on the Internet. I was really amazed because I thought I was the only one who really thought anthro characters were cool. So, I started getting into the fandom and making a few online friends. My very first social function was the PS Party that my dear friend Cyberbear took me to. No one talked to me there. Everyone had their own little group, their clique, and I felt very alone. I didn’t go again for many years until this year, in fact. Unlike you, Mixed-up, I’m not a talented artist, so I couldn’t make friends that way. What I did find was the bear community. I had something in common with them, and I founded the BearFurries group on Yahoo, and the Greymuzzles group on Facebook. Then I got into fursuiting and found that was a great way to meet people, too. Then I started this column, which gives me a lot of satisfaction, truly.
Anyway, the way I started making more and more friends was by finding one or two really close friends, and these friends introduce me to new friends, and pretty soon my circle was enlarged.
As you have found out, you can’t make true friends by giving them art or trying to “make a name for yourself.” You might get groupies or users or followers this way, but not real friends.
What you tried next seems to make better sense: finding some mature furries to hang out with. I’m not really clear from your letter, though, whether you just chat with them online or whether you actually meet them in person and hang out with them. You really need to hang out with people in person to make real friends, such as at meets or conventions or just at your house.
Papabear sees you are a bit upset at being labeled “cute.” Believe me, there are a LOT worse things to be than cute. What’s wrong with cute? Your next mistake, though, was trying to come up with a fursona to please other people and get them to like you, rather than having a fursona to purely please yourself. Stick with your original fursona, which, I bet, is more like you.
It might be cliché, but the best thing Papabear can tell you is to be yourself. Look for people who share your interests and who are, perhaps, “cute” just like you. Maybe form a “cute furries anonymous” club on FB, do something silly with it. Have fun!
The WORST thing you can do is come off as desperate, needy, and clingy. When you appear desperate for friendship, you will scare people off. Instead, be yourself. And get as much REAL person-to-person exposure to people as you possibly can. Be open to friendships from unexpected places, and don’t judge people too quickly who offer you a paw.
If you get off your computer and spend time in the real world, you will inevitably find people who share your interests and like you for you, without putting a label on you (such as “cute”) and without befriending you only because they want you to draw something for them.
And that’s the way it’s done, Mixed-up. Don’t give up on yourself. Don’t give up on friendship. There are friends out there waiting to be made!
Hugs,
Papabear
Episode 45 – The Mighty Schlep
Author: admin That’s right, it’s time for the old heave-ho, dragging ourselves through our assorted occupations. But before we get started, boy, do we have some discussions for you! Unfortunately, we have no Smokey this week; he’s off eating tape recorders to recover his sound powers. Instead, we have buttplug erosion, Istanbul’s “Words That Sound [...]
Episode 45 – The Mighty Schlep
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Episode 45 – The Mighty Schlep - That’s right, it’s time for the old heave-ho, dragging ourselves through our assorted occupations. But before we get started, boy, do we have some discussions for you! Unfortunately, we have no Smokey this week; h[...]
That’s right, it’s time for the old heave-ho, dragging ourselves through our assorted occupations. But before we get started, boy, do we have some discussions for you! Unfortunately, we have no Smokey this week; he’s off eating tape recorders to recover his sound powers. Instead, we have buttplug erosion, Istanbul’s “Words That Sound Dirty But Aren’t”, The Book of Faces and its crumbling, Kyo on the Disney channel along with his illiteracy (physicality!), Orange Techno, MTV and filming furries, and a host of other bizarre topics!
Once we get to e-mails, it’s a follow-up frenzy, and we make up for lost time! We discuss a listener’s sexual frustration and desensitization via injury, the importance of family vs. smoking and the failed foster care system, perception as reality and phantom limbs and trolls (all in one e-mail!), Kodyax’s heritage, how to discipline your kids, and we even have a long-awaited update from Lone Tiggs on his (now-former) horrible work situation!
Next week, we’re going to revisit yet another topic from our earlier episodes that we think deserves another quick ogle: porn. Pornography! What do you like, where do you like it, where do you get it, where do you keep it, are you looking for some, do you need help hiding it, are you addicted, and so on! Write on in and share your experiences and questions!
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Opinion: Applejack is the best pony
Author: crossaffliction I realized last week, when Hasbro thought it was a good idea to release a movie based on Battleship, that I will probably be reviewing a My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic movie within the next couple of years. At least that is a Hasbro property people actually want a movie of. In [...]
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022 - Bumcop! - Another great episode for your earholes! We talk about the hottest new show in our heads: bumcop...
Another great episode for your earholes! We talk about the hottest new show in our heads: bumcop, blackface at NERO, and lots of other rediculous ADD nonsense. We also answer a listener question. Come join us!
as always, you can leave your questions and comments on draggetshow@gmail.com, we love hearing from you!
022 - Bumcop! - Another great episode for your earholes! We talk about the hottest new show in our heads: bumcop...
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Santa Clara paper follows furs to ‘Crack Chicken’ meet
Author: GreenReaper Californian student newspaper The Santa Clara tailed a group of furs to the weekly “Crack Chicken” meet, and gives a overview of the fandom and fursuiting. The article’s tone is positive, though the claim that “most … in the group own at least one fur suit, and many own more than five” may [...]
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Australian animator shows non-furs can be fuzzhounds, too
Author: Fred Cartoon Brew just posted Marooned on Watango Island, a 2012 personal animated cartoon by Australian animator Lluis “Fuzzhound” Sanchez (whose name sounds more Catalan). The animation is absolutely non-Furry; I am reposting it here just to show that there are people outside of Furry fandom who take names like Fuzzhound. Also, don’t we [...]
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One Mate Is Monogamous, One Is Polygamous
Dear Papa Bear,
I am having real issues with my relationship with my mate.... It's turned out to be things I never thought or wanted it to be. Firstly, I want to say we are engaged and we have been together about one year. Basically, my mate has a master, is constantly looking for other mates, and is master to many pets. My mate constantly looks for local pets to yiff with. He says he just has to yiff with other people or it will just end badly. I inevitably just tell him "whatever," and then I just go mope in the corner cause I can't seem to make my mate feel good and so he needs other people.
I have told him all this and he just tells me "it feels different." My mate is always telling his pets he loves them and that he bonds with his pets so it's not just yiff. I have told him that all this makes me feel less special and like he could just replace me if he wanted to, but he still says that I am different from them.
Now on to the bad stuff.... I'm not too proud to say I hacked into my mate's computer and read his chat logs, but when I did I found so many things I never knew. He has told multiple people that I will not have any bearing on him and them. Also he apparently has a pet with an std, which he has told he would play with him if it wasn't for the fact that it would totally piss me off if he did. I know I have blamed someone else before when I did not want to do something, so I figure maybe that is what he was doing, but I really don't know.
In conclusion my main question is, "is this love?" We really used to be really lovey dovey and I figured that wouldn't last, but now my mate just sits on his computer talking to people and yiffing people on Second Life. So is this love? Should I leave him?
Signed,
Lost Lion
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Dear Lost Lion,
It is very clear to Papabear that you and your mate want different things. You are uncomfortable with his yiffing other people and RPing online with them; he has a very strong sex drive and apparently wants to be polygamous.
Your mate might be sincere that his love for you is different than what he feels for his pets and other playmates. In fact, I believe he IS sincere. However, that is not important. What IS important is how YOU feel. You are obviously not okay with it. It makes you feel bad and unwanted. You are not happy with your relationship this way, and it is clear your relationship has descended into distrust (as noted by your spying on him).
YOUR feelings are just as important as his, and if the two of you do not share the same sexual desires and needs your relationship cannot last. Unless you can resolve the situation to both your satisfactions (and I encourage you to try again), then, yes, it is time for you to find other people to be mates with.
I wish you luck. I know this is painful, but you have to do what is right for you.
Hugs,
Papabear
I am having real issues with my relationship with my mate.... It's turned out to be things I never thought or wanted it to be. Firstly, I want to say we are engaged and we have been together about one year. Basically, my mate has a master, is constantly looking for other mates, and is master to many pets. My mate constantly looks for local pets to yiff with. He says he just has to yiff with other people or it will just end badly. I inevitably just tell him "whatever," and then I just go mope in the corner cause I can't seem to make my mate feel good and so he needs other people.
I have told him all this and he just tells me "it feels different." My mate is always telling his pets he loves them and that he bonds with his pets so it's not just yiff. I have told him that all this makes me feel less special and like he could just replace me if he wanted to, but he still says that I am different from them.
Now on to the bad stuff.... I'm not too proud to say I hacked into my mate's computer and read his chat logs, but when I did I found so many things I never knew. He has told multiple people that I will not have any bearing on him and them. Also he apparently has a pet with an std, which he has told he would play with him if it wasn't for the fact that it would totally piss me off if he did. I know I have blamed someone else before when I did not want to do something, so I figure maybe that is what he was doing, but I really don't know.
In conclusion my main question is, "is this love?" We really used to be really lovey dovey and I figured that wouldn't last, but now my mate just sits on his computer talking to people and yiffing people on Second Life. So is this love? Should I leave him?
Signed,
Lost Lion
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Dear Lost Lion,
It is very clear to Papabear that you and your mate want different things. You are uncomfortable with his yiffing other people and RPing online with them; he has a very strong sex drive and apparently wants to be polygamous.
Your mate might be sincere that his love for you is different than what he feels for his pets and other playmates. In fact, I believe he IS sincere. However, that is not important. What IS important is how YOU feel. You are obviously not okay with it. It makes you feel bad and unwanted. You are not happy with your relationship this way, and it is clear your relationship has descended into distrust (as noted by your spying on him).
YOUR feelings are just as important as his, and if the two of you do not share the same sexual desires and needs your relationship cannot last. Unless you can resolve the situation to both your satisfactions (and I encourage you to try again), then, yes, it is time for you to find other people to be mates with.
I wish you luck. I know this is painful, but you have to do what is right for you.
Hugs,
Papabear
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