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Good Evening, Papabear

My name is Sabrina and I've heard about you from a friend IRL and she told me you can help with problems and this one deals with my brother Kyle. He's going out with a guy named Chris; there's nothing wrong with him and the two of them get along so well. But every time Kyle tries to hug or kiss Chris, Chris seems to shrug away from it. This happened more than once, and Kyle thought he might have done something wrong or was being too pushy. 

A few weeks later, Kyle found out that Chris doesn't like to be touched by guys because Chris was physically and emotionally abused by his mother's old boyfriends in the past (nothing sexual happened) and that's why that happened, which caused Kyle to hate himself for being too touchy with Chris and shirk away from him so he won't make him feel uncomfortable. 

What can I do to help my brother, Papabear? I don't want to see him upset nor do I want to see Chris upset either; he became like a brother to me.

Love,
Sabrina

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Dear Sabrina,

Thanks for your letter. It’s so nice to see a caring sister like you. The first thing you need to do to help your brother is make him understand that nothing about this is his fault. Chris’s problems are not his fault, and the fact that he tried to show Chris affection before understanding Chris’s past is also not your brother’s fault. Tell him Papabear told you that it is not his fault and not to feel bad.

Although Chris was not sexually abused, he was physically and emotionally abused and that is just as bad in many ways. Childhood abuse commonly has a negative impact on the abused person’s ability to make friendships and have loving relationships. Many such victims also become abusive, depressed, even suicidal.

You and your brother need to form an alliance to help Chris. First, I’d like to recommend a little reading: Adult Children of Abusive Parents by Steven Farmer. You can also read Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life by Susan Forward and Craig Buck. You and your brother should both read one or both of these books, then talk about it, and then give the books to Chris to read. Another thing you can do is research local support groups in your area and see if you can get Chris to attend one of them.

Again, Step 1: tell your brother he is not to blame; Step 2: learn about the problems adults face when they’ve been abused and try to educate Chris as well; support him emotionally and try to get him some help.

Good luck!

Papabear

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FINSTERWORLD crossed my radar several days ago. (See my enthusiastic review to learn about fursuiting in the movie.) Their official news confirms it as German nominee for best foreign film at the Oscars. This is making me excited to propose a Furry Film Festival! MORE COMMENTS WANTED. Nice comments are coming in to my post […]

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I am working on a Furry-ish story, and I started having it illustrated as a comic (Page in, not that far into it).

While the illustration has been in process, I have been writing scripts for several chapters ahead and one in particular ended up over 15,000 words. Now, granted a good deal of that is description, actions and what have you, but still that's an 1/8th of a novel for one chapter of a comic. I am starting to get concerned that things will be lost because...well some of that has to be cut.

This is why I ask if you prefer comic to story, and why I ask /r/furry in particular since this is...somewhat furry (It's kind of a long story and there's more to it but...still furry in some ways).

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I am looking for a makers whose prices do not start over 2k.

submitted by Yiffing_Time
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Lets have a thought experiment.

What if furry fandom was considered tantamount to religion by the public. Wearing a tail would be considered similar to wearing a cross or a kippah. Like religion, there is varying public opinion on the subject, but in many places it is a non-issue.

Would you chose to express yourself? If so, how?

After I saw that comic posted here a few days ago (which I can no longer find the link to), I have been mulling over this idea.

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I'm curious how they will turn out XD just comment what you want me to draw and I shall!

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Can you believe it? We've come to the end of Season 3! Mark joins Roo and Tugs in studio as they relive their favorite moments from the Season, read your emails, read a new "How Google Transcribed it", and more! This deluxe length episode wouldn't have been possible without YOU, so we thank you for writing in for each episode and letting us know what your favorite moments were. We hope you enjoy reliving the journey with us.



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Opening theme: Fredrik Miller– Cloud Fields (Radio Mix). USA: Bandcamp, 2011. Used with permission.  (Buy a copy here – support your fellow furs!)
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Closing: Fredrik Miller – Cloud Fields (Chill Out Mix). USA: Bandcamp, 2011. Used with permission. (Buy a copy here – support your fellow furs!)
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Next episode: S3 Special 4 - What Does Furry Mean to You? But send your emails now for Season 4 Episode 1 - Outsiders ask questions about the fandom! Send your emails by August 15, 2014! S3 – Episode 24 – Season 3 Recap - Can you believe it? We've come to the end of Season 3! Mark joins Roo and Tugs in studio as they relive their favorite moments from the Season, read your emails, read a new "How Google Transcribed it", and more!

I'm looking to get a character sheet. Unfortunately the artists I have found who's style fits my mental image of my sona either don't make character sheets, don't draw canine genitals, or are sadly never available to commission. Here is where I ask your help. I would like to find an artist with similar styles as those I have linked and meet my requirements. Your help wild be greatly appreciated.

Feralise http://www.furaffinity.net/view/14090386/

AmadeusDamiano http://www.furaffinity.net/view/14207805/

Spearfrost NSFW http://www.furaffinity.net/view/14214201/

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Part 2 of our trip to Montana, we continue our discussion with author Jess E Owen. This time we discuss the topic of Young Adult fiction, what we like about it, why isn’t there more of it in the fandom, and main elements of the genre.

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Ep 27 – Young Adult w Jess Owen - Part 2 of our trip to Montana, we continue our discussion with author Jess E Owen. This time we discuss the topic of Young Adult fiction, what we like about it, why isn’t there more of it in the fandom, and main elements of the genre. Find Jess [...]

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Why I Review

by Tarl “Voice” Hoch

 

For those that follow either my Smashwords or Goodreads accounts (or my Facebook and Twitter for that matter) will know that for the last year or so I have been reviewing any and all books that I read. No matter what they are, be they religious texts to fiction novels, I head over to the sites when I am done and rate them, plus give them each a review.

Someone once asked me why. Why do I review, and why is it so damned important to me that I do?

The fact is, it helps the community, it helps the writer, and it helps the purchaser.

In all of my time doing this, I’ve tried to stick to the constructive criticism model I learned in University. Say something nice, then something that needed improvement, and then something nice. Though I didn’t see very many students following this model in my art classes, I saw just how effective it was when someone actually followed that guideline. I’m also happy to say, except for two or three books, I have been able to stick to that formula.

You see, reviewing helps writers. It helps them to know what they could improve upon in their story. If only one person says something, then it’s kind of pointless. But if you have ten, or twenty, or fifty people saying that your pacing is choppy, then you know what you need to work on. It also gives you to know what worked in your story as well. If everyone raves about how hot your sex scenes are, then you know you don’t need to work on them, and can concentrate on the stuff that DOES need work.

But as mentioned, reviewing also helps purchasers. I have taken novels and short stories off my wish list because of poor reviews. Let me make this clear before I continue, they have to be GOOD reviews. Well thought out, well spoken, before I will listen to them. None of this “IT WAS AWESOME!” crap. Anyway, if someone has commented on a novel being terrible due to the ending, or the pacing, or grammar, or whatever, then I am more likely not to get it. Not only does it save me money, but it also saves me frustration at the author when I read it (and hopefully lets the author know what they need to work on).

And last, reviewing helps the community. Be it writer, or be it furry, reviewing works constructively lets authors know you’re reading their material, it gets knowledge of a book or anthology out there, and it lets the culture grow and evolve in a positive manner. Without reviewing, everything would just sort of stagnate. No one would get feedback, besides sales authors wouldn’t know if people were reading or enjoying their material, and no one would be able to improve upon their work.

In the end, I review because as a writer, it helps not only my community, but it helps other writers to improve their craft. I try to give as detailed reviews as possible and try to be fair and honest with each one I give. I’m not perfect, and there have been reviews where words fail me and I have to put something down. But for the most part, I try to explain the best I can what I liked and didn’t like about each and everything I read.

So that is why I review everything I read.

I suggest you do the same. It helps a lot of people out when you do, especially if you take the time to make it detailed and you give it in the constructive criticism format. Not all books are perfect, because no writer or editor is perfect. But that said, no book is ever complete crap either, and there is always something positive to say about a story (though I’ve come across a couple where I honestly couldn’t think of anything good to say, and those two stories still bother me because of that).

In the end, the brief time it takes to actually type out a short review is so minor compared to the benefit to those it touches, that there really isn’t a reason why you shouldn’t be reviewing the stuff you read.

 

This post first appeared on Tarl “Voice” Hoch’s blog on Goodreads.