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Hi, Papabear, 

I saw that you helped out furries out so I thought maybe you could help me out as well. I don't normally like to talk to people about my feelings, but I'm worried that I may make a decision I'll regret with something that is happening to me. Two years ago I met this great furry that lived only an hours’ drive away from me. We became fast friends, and before I knew it I had fallen in love with her (we are both mtf [male-to-female] transgirls). After about 6 months of being friends we tried to date, but it didn't last long with both of us being submissives and always yiffy—sorry if that's TMI. Anyway, We stayed friends, but a few months after that I guess I did some things to really hurt her and ruined our friendship and she never wanted to talk to me or see me again. 

I moved away a few months ago, and then out of the blue just a month ago she watched me on FurAffinity and added me to skype and was talking to me again. I guess this is where the question comes in: I still have feelings for her. I still love her, but I'm scared of ruining anything and making her not want to talk to me again. What do you think I should do? Hoping to hear from you soon, and thank you in advance.

~Ashley Raccoon (age 22)

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Hi, Ashley,

May I ask for a little more detail in your letter that may help with my reply? Specifically, what happened (what did you do) that harmed the friendship in the first place? Did you discuss it at all? Are you discussing it now as you try to mend your friendship?

Thanks,

Papabear

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Hi Papabear, 

To answer your questions, She did tell me a few reasons why the friendship ended. She told me that my anxiety was so high that it was causing her own anxiety to shoot through the roof and she felt like she was going to have a panic attack around me, but we are both on anxiety medication now, so that's been handled. I haven't brought anything up since she added me on Skype and Yahoo and watched me on FA, but I think the friendship is being mended.

~Ashley Raccoon

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Hi, Ashley,

Well, then, it doesn’t sound as if this is a matter of your saying something that offended her, but rather the fact that you are both anxious people. As you say, if you can both mellow out, perhaps the friendship may be restored.

Papabear is not a big fan of mood-altering medications. I find they are often overprescribed by doctors who want to treat the symptoms and not the causes; sadly, too, many doctors get prescription kickbacks from pharmaceutical companies. It all depends on whether you have a good or a bad doctor, which is why it is so important to carefully choose a family physician. Doctors often don’t address what is causing your anxiety in the first place. There are a couple of possibilities. One could be an actual chemical imbalance, which would, indeed, be helped by medication. However, another cause could be psychological in that you might both be dealing with emotional and mental issues that, frequently, stem from something happening in your childhood. Such cases are best treated by a psychologist or psychiatrist.

The other is dietary. The more I learn about what the American food industry is doing to us for the sake of quick profits, the more disgusted I become. Things like high fructose corn syrup, aspartame, and (they finally admit) transfats are horrible for our health, not only physically but often emotionally and mentally, too. 

I am not saying stop taking your medications, since I am not a doctor, but I will suggest you avoid the following foods as much as possible:

1. Caffeine
2. Salt
3. Sugar
4. MSG
5. Alcohol
6. Aspartame

All of these have been shown to increase body stress and anxiety. The reason I also highly recommend avoiding any foods with aspartame artificial sweetener, which is commonly found in diet sodas and many other diet products, is because you often won’t hear about this from doctors because neither the FDA nor the AMA has condemned this poison as they should. Other artificial sweeteners, such as sucralose, are not so great either. For a low-cal sweetener, I recommend stevia (sometimes sold under the brand name Truvia™) because it comes from a natural herb and chemical companies hate it and have tried to get the government to ban it.

In addition to diet, you might find exercise, yoga, and/or meditation to be helpful for your anxiety disorders.

I hope that if you and your friend can both control your anxiety issues, you may enjoy your friendship much more.

Good luck! Bear hugs!

Papabear

So after a silly conversation about dinosaurs some friends and I came up with the concept of a Balkosaurus Rex. Wanting to see this happened I asked another great friend of mine to draw it, and she did it just how I imagined.

Hope you guys enjoy! If you like it please let the artist know.

Edit: Derped a link

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Just curious how furries here generally connect in the fandom. Just through art sites? IRC or furry chatrooms? Forums? Gaming?

I'm asking out of curiosity and because I'm looking for a way to get more involved with the fandom again, make some new furry pals. I used to be really involved on FA's forums (was an admin at some point), and was part of a pretty close-knit IRC channel. The furs I used to know eventually all parted ways, so I guess I want to find a way to get to know some people again. :3

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Author: Dear Papabear, First of all, I’d like to say thanks for creating such a great avenue for people to ask questions. To be quite honest, I’m not really sure if I’m a furry myself. Ever since I was little, I’ve gotten aroused at the site of people being transformed into animals or anthropomorphic animals […]

Author: Smokescale Aquatos Good evening and welcome listeners! It’s Fuzzy Logic: Episode 96 – GET LEARNT We don’t have our usual intro summary this show. Sorry about that. Guess you’ll just have to read here, then listen to find out! First off, we have some sad news. This was Kyo’s last show. He explains why […] Fuzzy Logic: Episode 96 – Get Learnt

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Given that you are a viewer of this site, you probably are interested in both gaming and the furry fandom. With that in mind, it's fairly safe to assume that you've at least heard of Dust: An Elysian Tail. Originally released on the 360, Dean Dodrill's first release has been making waves. In order to allow more people to play it, the game was eventually ported to the PC and has been available on Steam for quite some time.

But let's say that you have an vehement anti-DRM stance and don't want to support Steam as a result. Well, you're in luck. It has recently been announced that Dust: An Elysian Tail is now on GoG. GoG has a hardline stance against all forms of DRM. All that you need to do is purchase a game and download it from their servers. Those who act now will receive it at 50% off it's $14.99 price point.

I must say that this is a very well-made game. Mr. Dodrill also went to great lengths to ensure that the PC port is solid. As a furry gamer, you owe it to yourself to check this out if you haven't already. There aren't any more excuses.

Hi! I'm Christian, but i go by Kit (Don't say Chris or else), and I'm 17. I'm from a suburb area near Portland. I've been looking at anthro art for a bit now, not really creating accounts or fursonas, but by god was I interested. It seemed kind of weird, and still does, but I thought it was the right time. It's been interesting me for quite a bit so decided to come to /r/furry to come out.

First things first, my fursona. I don't really know anyone, nor have I really talked to anyone furry so far. I see you guys do a lot of great art, and I've been lurking for a bit! I'm not into super anime stuff, but i do like art kind of this style:(http://i.imgur.com/HBHuy8p.jpg) (http://i.imgur.com/B3hMhco.png) (http://i.imgur.com/vMeWkJ5.jpg). but I can't draw for shit. If anybody would be kind enough to do a quick sketch for me, that'd be great!

Here's my basic idea for my fursona: German Shepherd- about 6 feet tall- average build, not super muscular, not string bean!- tan and black (obviously)-Hazel eyes - wearing a green zip up hoodie, moccasins, and gray jeans- a bit scruffy/fluffy around the head - no human hair-

If anybody could help me out with tips or anything as to furry ediquette, i would appreciate it! Ninja edit: fixed links to ideas

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British retail department store John Lewis has developed a reputation in the last few years for incredibly emotional tear jerking advertisements around the holiday season.

This year they've got the British furry fandom going all starry eyed.

The animation of the hare in particular is reminiscent of Watership Down.

Click here to continue the story http://bit.ly/1c4u55G Watch the new John Lewis Christmas TV advert and see Hare give his best friend Bear a Christmas he'll never forget. Set in a beautiful forest, poor Bear is the only animal that never gets to celebrate Christmas because he has to hibernate every year.

if you ever wanted to give an intelligent answer to the meme, this article provides all the answers, plus some facts you may never had considered before.

I will also leave you with the conclusion which asks a more pressing question, why don't we know what the fox says? 

 

That's what sound the fox makes! But equally interesting is why most people don't know what sound the fox makes. It's a widespread, enormously successful and adaptive species, living worldwide, in all sorts of climates, in forests, on mountains, in suburbs and sometimes even cities. Americans and Europeans are very familiar with the red fox. And unlike, say, a raccoon, it's a highly vocal animal. So how come we have no idea what it sounds like?[...]

 

Foxes are common and cute, they feature in myths and we have gone to extreme lengths to make them our pets, but the noises they make are sort of...awful. The red fox does not have a mellifluous voice; even when it's happy, it mostly sounds like it's being strangled. It would be awkward to teach your young child that the cow goes moo, the frog goes croak, and the fox goes YAAGGAGHHGHHHHHHAHHHH!!!!!

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