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Change Yourself to Fit Your Life, or Change Your Life to Fit You?
I'm at a crossroads in terms of my sexuality, and have been for a few years since my first semester of college. I find it hard to identify myself as bisexual since I try to date girls, but at the same time having experience what it's like to make love to a man, and striking out seven times with girlfriends has resulted in me becoming lonely, and making me wonder.
What makes things more difficult is the fact that, while I do have a male friend I might be happy with, and who I care a lot for, the fact stands; my life revolves around me appearing to be straight.
My boss hates homosexuals and the career path I'm taking doesn't take kindly to that either, I don't know how my entire family would react, especially my super-Christian Nanna and—being a part of another fandom entirely—I don't know how many people would feel suddenly uncomfortable around me.
I want your advice as to what I should do. Should I continue to try and pursue women and possibly remain lonely, go after the man I have in mind, or something else?
Bifurcated Gryphon
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Dear Gryphon,
One reason that the conservative argument that people “choose to be gay” is so ludicrous is demonstrated by what you are going through right now. Coming out gay and trying to be accepted by family, friends, and society is, to put it bluntly, a bitch. You will be constantly faced with prejudice, hatred, and ignorant fears. Why would anyone choose that if they didn’t have to?
The alternative, though, for gay people is to stay in the closet, never being who they truly are, and when you can’t be who you truly are you will discover a misery far more profound than facing the judgment of the ignorant, close-minded people around you: you will be rejecting yourself. No one on the planet is harder on us than ourselves. I can certainly attest to that. Because other people reject us, we conclude, “There must be something wrong with me.” We begin to hate ourselves, feeling we don’t deserve happiness because we are immoral or “broken” somehow. Once you go down that path you set yourself up for depression and possibly worse. Many gay people (even moreso in the past in America before we started to gain at least a little acceptance, but still true today) ended their own lives.
Judging by your letter, you are just fooling yourself trying to convince yourself you are bi and could manage to date and marry a woman. I suspect that this is why you have had no luck dating girls. Believe it or not, people have a kind of sixth sense and they can often detect whether you are being sincere or not. You cannot effectively pretend an attraction for the opposite sex if, deep down inside, you don’t feel it. Of course, even if you were bi, bisexual people are not accepted by society either, by and large, so that would still leave you with the same difficulties. You could maybe marry a woman, but you would still want to have a man, at least part of the time, which would likely put a strain on any marriage you had, unless you also married a bisexual woman!
I could speculate on different scenarios for quite some time and get really creative, but let’s stop there. The essence of your question is this: Should I try and live a lie so that I can get along with my family and coworkers, or should I be my true self and then adjust my life to fit who I am rather than the other way around?
I think you know the answer without Papabear telling you.
I wish you luck and love,
Papabear
Review: ‘The Streets of His City and Other Stories’, by Alflor Aalto
Any furs have kik
Usually slow at work, anyone has kik and wanna chat? PupXSnow
submitted by Snowfauls[link] [5 comments]
Magic of friendship remains in ‘My Little Pony: Equestria Girls’
I often get asked what a furry is by people that seem to have never heard of us. I usually send them here, because they recognize and trust this site usually. What do you all think? Is there a better resource for explaining us? [Know Your Meme]
![I often get asked what a furry is by people that seem to have never heard of us. I usually send them here, because they recognize and trust this site usually. What do you all think? Is there a better resource for explaining us? [Know Your Meme]](http://b.thumbs.redditmedia.com/nDkK5wLPkkgwqWpO.jpg "I often get asked what a furry is by people that seem to have never heard of us. I usually send them here, because they recognize and trust this site usually. What do you all think? Is there a better resource for explaining us? [Know Your Meme]")
Episode 84 — Connecting with Furries - How do you meet other furries? You could always try taking an ad in the newspaper (not recommended), or you can do some online hunting for this common internet species. Listen this week as we share our tips, experien
How do you meet other furries? You could always try taking an ad in the newspaper (not recommended), or you can do some online hunting for this common internet species. Listen this week as we share our tips, experiences, and warnings.
Metadata and Credits WagzTail Podcast 2.0 Episode 84Runtime: 30m
Cast: JWingy, Levi, Spenser, Wolfin
Editor: Levi
Format: 128kbps ABR split-stereo MP3
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Thoughts on measuring the “furry economy”
A question from a furry fan.
So I've been stalking on this subreddit for a while and I stalk on FA admiring art and such and just recently I decided to go to a local con(Oklacon) but I have never been to a con before and my friend told me a ton about there Fursonas but the one I thought up is mostly human but that is not the question. I just wanted to know if theres anything I should know about before going to this con, its a outdoors con at a camping ground and only a hour from my house, What should I do? Should I bring anything important? what should I avoid doing?
submitted by Leoofmoon[link] [11 comments]
First Dog in Space Gets a Game!
Back in November 3rd 1957 Russian scientist of the Soviet Union sent the first dog into space which they named Laika. More than half a century later and the first canine cosmonaut now gets her own game developed by Minicore Studios and set to release on “multiple platforms”. The game’s full title “Laika Believes: The Sun at Night” is being described as an episodic 2D action platformer. Don’t expect this to be historically accurate as the game pits Laika against a Soviet controlled world. Don’t take my word for it, just take a look at the developer’s synopsis.
FC-127 Sympathy Pats™
[NSFW] Been a furry artist for less than two years, and I would like your opinions on some of my recent images!
So, hello!
I'll put them down in order of some less-recent images to one I just finished now. All of them are from this month, though.
sfw: Long Day's End
sfw: Burnout
sfw: Perseverance
nsfw: Surprise (Part 3)
Thanks for your time! Also I can post links to the IB and/or Weasyl submissions as well if anyone prefers those.
Also "furry artist for less than two years" basically refers to art full-stop. I did some art back when I was still in school, but that was easily four years between when I stopped then and when I started this, and I wasn't much good back then.
Edit; Since someone said they hate FA, here are links to some other sites for the above images, in order.
https://inkbunny.net/submissionview.php?id=421388
https://inkbunny.net/submissionview.php?id=422224
https://inkbunny.net/submissionview.php?id=426784
(nswf) https://inkbunny.net/submissionview.php?id=434038
Or, alternatively
https://www.weasyl.com/submission/195952
https://www.weasyl.com/submission/196662
https://www.weasyl.com/submission/200082
(nswf) https://www.weasyl.com/submission/205548
submitted by MGlBlaze[link] [19 comments]
I just have a question
I've been lurking around the furry community for a while and want to start getting involved with the community a little more. The problem is, I can't draw whatsoever and don't have the patience (or skill) to make fursuits. Basically, what I'm asking is how can I become involved in the furry community without being able to draw or make fursuits?
submitted by throwaway_ccount[link] [13 comments]
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