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Need some advice for my teenage daughter.
I have a 12 year old daughter who walks to the beat of her own drum. She enjoys all things anthro (we haven't discussed the meaning of furry, but I believe it's something she feels comfortable referring herself to) and loves drawing manga style comics.
I fully support whatever lifestyle choices she makes and I have been trying to find her a community where she can communicate with people who have similar interests, and my partner suggested finding her a few reddit communities to take part in.
So I guess my question for you fine folks is... is this, or other subreddits like /r/furry suitable for a young woman? Can you suggest any communities I might be able to check out and guide her to?
Thanks much! :)
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Mate's Gaming Addiction Is Destroying Them Both
My name is alan and I am finally 18 years old and I am a fat gay anthro rat and I am having a bit of a relationship issue. My mate, who I have been with three years, just keeps on gaming and well it’s taking a bit of a toll on our relationship. Whenever I come home from school and log on to my laptop the first thing I see is him on stream gaming. We have short little chats, we tell each other we love them and basically that's all our conversation turns out to be. And the month of February is worse. He games all month and I have to let him game or else I have to take care of a moody, fat, gay, anthro badger. To all reading this, the month of February is a tough month for him because he lost his mom when he was younger in this month.
I’ve just had it with his gaming. He games and games and games. I feel like he dose not care for me any more. I miss the old times when we had like date nights and he gave me all the love in the world, but now he just games and I started drinking sodas just to get me through the pain of this. I drink like 4 sodas a day; trust me, it’s that bad. Now I turn to you, Papabear. What should I do? I don’t know how much of this I can take anymore. I am losing sleep over this. I am a gamer but I only game like 5 to 6 hours but he games like 7 to 10 hours a day.
Oh, yeah, I got a nook for my birthday last year and I was wondering if you know any good books that I can read.
From a stressed out new Mexican rat king.
Alan
P.S.: My mate lives in Georgia, sorry I forgot to mention this.
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Dear Alan,
It’s clear that your mate has a gaming addiction that was probably exacerbated by the death of his mother. He is avoiding the pain he feels by submerging himself into a fantasy world. This might ease his pain, but he is actually hurting himself and you in the process. Therefore, it is not a positive therapeutic strategy, but a harmful one that must be stopped.
The mental health community is recognizing this problem more and more, and treatment centers are starting to pop up around the country specifically designed to treat gaming addicts. If your mate had the money, I would suggest he go to one of these.
First, of course, he needs to recognize he has a problem, just as an alcoholic or drug addict has to. That’s where you come in. From your letter, it does not sound like you have yet confronted him with the problem. Now, I guess he lives in a different state, so you can’t do the ideal thing, which is to sit down with him in person, hold his hand, look him in the eye, and explain the situation. Unless you can fly over to him, you’ll have to do the next best thing: call him on the phone or perhaps do a videochat.
Tell him basically what you told me. That all this gaming is hurting him and you and destroying your relationship. Tell him you love him and want to help, but he has to help himself by trying to get some treatment and trying to get off the gaming. One way to do that is to set limits. For example, if he is gaming 10 hours a day, try cutting it to 9 for a week, then to 8 for the next week, and so on until it is a more reasonable 2 hours or so.
As for your Nook, you could start by reading up on game addiction to help your mate. Here are a few good ones:
- Hooked on Games: The Lure and Cost of Video Game and Internet Addiction
- Cyber Junkie: Escape the Gaming and Internet Trap
- Game Addiction: The Experience and the Effects
Work with your mate on breaking his addiction. This will take patience and time on your part. Such things don’t change overnight. There will likely be a two-steps-forward-one-or-two-back-two-steps-forward-again progress that, at times, could be infuriating, but if you love him you will work on it.
He also has to deal more directly with the grief over losing his mother. Some grief counseling from a professional would be helpful, either one-on-one or group therapy. Explore what options are available in his part of the country and go from there.
In addition to all of this, don’t forget to be good to yourself. You can begin by dropping the sodas and drink herbal tea or water with some lemon or lime and a dose of stevia sweetener. If you like it bubbly, get some soda water and mix citrus and stevia into it. Try to get some exercise, and yoga or meditation to calm your spirits. People who try to help those who have an addiction or serious illness often forget that they need to be healthy, too, so take care of yourself!
Hope this helps! Please keep me posted on your progress.
Hugs,
Papabear
Mickey Mouse Club — GO!!
This is almost impossible to describe, even when you’re looking right at it! Check out this name: Chogokin Super-Combining King Robo Mickey and Friends. Then just check out the picture below! It’s a new toy created in Japan as a collaboration between Bandai Tamashii Nations and Disney. It features die-cast metal characters with names like Jet Mickey, Sky Minnie, Diver Donald, Aqua Daisy, Land Goofy, and Dash Pluto, who combine (along with other accessories) into the massive King Robot to fight… sheesh, we can only guess what! Take a look at the advertisement on Amazon to see more of what the individual component characters look like. King Robo Mickey (etc etc…) will be available internationally this April. Now all we have to do is wait for the TV series…
image c. 2013 Bandai Tamashii Nations and Disney
How do you guys feel about my hybrid characters?
Affordable Handmade Custom Tail-Scarves! ((Now taking orders))
Hello everyone! Furry on the inside but cold on the outside? Want to boast your fuzzy flair 24/7 yet don't want the hassle of fursuits or bulky tails? Perhaps it's time to have a word with Violet Fox, Spinner of Tails!
I craft high-quality tail-scarves using only my bare hands. In size, they are about 6 ounces in weight, 3.5 feet long, and 2-3 inches thick/wide. They come in a huge variety of colors, and (currently) in 3 different designs. They are completely machine washable and never fade or fray (unless you take a pair of scissors to them, and shame on you for running with scissors)!
They are very unique costume pieces, making excellent tails and manes. Once you're done presenting your furry side, draped them about your neck and you have a lovely, timeless scarf!
As of now, I am managing tail-scarf commissions out of my furaffinity account page. If you wish to know more about the tail-scarves or see them modeled, I invite you to come visit my account page. http://www.furaffinity.net/user/violetfox/
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An excellent commission of my character as an Agent from the PC game Blacklight: Retribution! Art by Eliana-Asato.
Help finding the artist.
So I need help finding the artist of this pic http://i.imgur.com/tD2udse.jpg or more pics like this. Thank you!
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ColossalCon
Alright, I know its more anime then anything, but I saw lots of furries running around (literally,) with cute fox ears and tails. Plus a few in full suits!
So I ask, whose going this year?? Ill be there!! I might actually have a tail and ears myself! (I just need to man up and buy em haha) and I'd really like to get some nice colored contacts too!!
Last year was a blast!! Hopefully this year will be too!
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FC-114 Meth Helps You Breathe
This is my first time on this forum. What do I see? Someone posted a pic with the same skiing tiger I saw, one page back! Awesome randomness!!
Best yarn for yarn tails?
So i've seen multiple people saying different ones. Im currently using Red Heart and its worked ok for me so far.. I don't have a Hobby Lobby anywhere in my state so ILTY won't work. Also how does each thickness work with it? Like does Worsted work better or Bulky? Such as in fluffiness after brushing and whatnot. Feedback welcomed! Thanks!
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