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Hi Papabear! 

Okay, be prepared to read a wild tale.

I am a female Brony (or Pegasister, if you rather) who married a furry 6 months ago. I appreciated the furry culture before, and since I met my furry mate, I have been trying to create roleplays and the like that I think he would enjoy. My problem is that he doesn't like ponies (which I respect) -- unless it's vore. I don't know your feelings on vore, but I want to be able to please him. It's just difficult to simulate in real life and I'm having trouble coming up with things to say and do that will help his fetish. It's also difficult to truly immerse ourselves into the fantasy because we can't afford props or suits to play in. I call him my puppy and have taken the dominant role in our relationship, which is great for his submissive personality and for daily life, but I have trouble being the predator when it comes to our bedroom. How can I accommodate him? Do you have any advice on how I could gain enough confidence to be what he needs me to be? I've always been submissive before I met him, so I'm having trouble being on the other side of the whip. Please help!

Brofists and hugs,
Cupric Crystal

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Dear Cupric,

The specific fetishes etc. that you’re talking about here are irrelevant. It is also irrelevant whether or not you have the necessary props to perform a fantasy, since good role players can perform fantasies with or without such physical objects (remember, 90% of sex is in the brain, leaving only 10% for your poor genitals).

The real issue has to do with compatibility. I have to wonder how long you knew this furry before you married. Be that as it may, what makes a marriage or other partnership work is the give-and-take. That is, ideally, everything should be 50/50, including finances, housework, child rearing, and sex.

There are times when the 50/50 split has to be put on hold, such as when a partner is sick or out of work. When something like that happens, it is unfair to demand the one at a disadvantage to perform. An interesting example: I just watched The Theory of Everything last night, which is the story of Stephen Hawking. It focuses more on his personal relationships and struggle with ALS than on his academic achievements. Hawking (played brilliantly by Eddie Redmayne) meets and falls in love with Jane (also superbly played by Felicity Jones) while he’s at Cambridge. Even though they learn he has ALS and is expected to live only a couple of years (this is in 1963; Hawking is a testimony to the triumph of human will over medical “knowledge”), she sticks by him through thick and thicker. A funny scene occurs between Hawking and one of his school day chums when he is asked how ALS affects his sexual performance and Hawking replies that it is one reflex he hasn’t lost (he fathered 3 children while paralyzed). Anyway, the point is that Jane stuck by Stephen because she loved him and it wasn’t his fault he had ALS. However (spoiler alert) their marriage falls apart because of infidelity (on both of their parts, but—not properly emphasized in the movie—mostly on his part).

While you’re not talking about infidelity, what I mean here is that there is a time to compromise and there is a time to insist on your fair share. Your husband has no physical infirmity that you mention, so I assume he is in good health and there is no reason for you to compromise.

Therefore, you are asking me the wrong question. The question isn’t “How can I compromise even further to accommodate his needs?” The question, rather, should be “Why isn’t he doing anything to please me in return?”

You see, Cupric, if your husband returned the favor and stimulated you with your sexual fantasies, it would boost your libido significantly, and this would then make it much easier to play the dom role on occasion because you will have been sexually satisfied. The key ingredient here, therefore, is passion. You are having trouble satisfying him because you are not turned on, and you are not turned on because he has done nothing to show that he is sexually passionate for you as a person.

You need to make clear your needs in the bedroom, and if he is not okay with that then I foresee rough waters ahead for you and your marriage. Hopefully, he will see the light.

Good luck!

Papabear

Hellooooooooo everybody, I'm back today with another /r/Furry weekly social thread! :3 Hope you all had a wonderful holiday full of lots of family fun and good presents and stuff~ :D

Anyway, you all know the drill but I'm curious if you guys think I should move the weekly social threads to Saturday, make sure people can use 'em over most of their weekend ^_^

Anyway, you all know what to do, so let's get talking! :D

[EDIT] STICKY STICKY STICKY STICKY STICKYYYYYY :D Thanks iTo, you dabess <3

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Edit: Link to details of today/night's game!
NO POST EDITS! I CANNOT NOTICE THOSE! Double post instead.

We can use a nifty feature of pretend you are xyzzy which allows you to use cardcast decks so why not make a deck of cards just for this sub (and /r/yiff, of course).

Suggest your cards and remember that being offensive is part of the game.
Nothing is sacred, nothing is too soon.
If you don't like it, the door is to the left.

Suggesting a black card. Make a post like this:

BLACK
Once again, FA bot crashed because _______

Source:

**BLACK** *Once again, FA bot crashed because _______*

You can use multiple "___________" for multiple gaps.

Suggesting a white card. Make a post like this:

WHITE
A chlorine spill.

Source:

**WHITE** *A chlorine spill.* submitted by fa_mirror
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Long time without our favorite politically incorrect game.

Custom cards! Go suggest some at this thread.

• Check what time 23:00 UTC is in your local time (Beware of DST!). You can use Time.is.
• Go to "Dickfingers" pretend you are yxyzzy server.
• Join fa_mirror's game. OR TheBloodyScot's game
• Password is: "a_knotty_situation" (without quotes, obviously)

"Tonight is relative..."

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Don't ignore the fact that I just started one in /r/MLPlounge

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My screen is a bit bare. Mind sharing? c: (SFW)

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Title says it all

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Im on the behemoth server, could use some furry friends to play with (but if you dont play but want to chat, you can always shoot me a pm)

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I have tried advertising and sales. In the past 2 years, i've only gotten 3 commissions. I don't know what im doing wrong. When i offer free art, everyone jumps on the bang wagon, but other than that no one wants to waste their time with me. I try to be friendly, not over friendly, and i have been going through some rough times an posting about that. I've even asked for opinons and what they would like or are willing to do (asked my watchers) and only one response (from my online sis). Ive even tried pay what you wants an while the submission does gets views, im never contacted.

How do i get commissions, i cant think of how what else to do. Agian ive tried advertising, PWYW and sales.

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I've been in the community for about 5 years and this is just a little list of who I think are the friendliest groups of furrys.

1: The 12 year olds. While they can be edgy little shits, I started lurking SoFurry at 13. I wish I had found reddit, because SoFurry has ALOT of weard shit.

2: Muscles furs. The big buff dudes on FA tend to be really really nice. Now not macro guys, there usaly assholes.

3: Jap furs. Not weeaboos but actual japs are fun as hell.

4: Vorefurs. Strangely there really easy and fun to talk to. Most don't like death eather, and if you ask say they will let there prey out to snuggle. Goo furs, canines, bugs that are into vore seem to meaner though. Not me I'm nice I promise!

5: Fursuiters. Gose without saying, you guys are all hugs.

So, what dose r/furry think are the friendliest groups?

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I'd like to thank the members of r/furry for one:

For being super cool and loving and accepting

and two

for helping me out in a rough spot in my life

You're all great and I look forward to another awesome year of being with you guys c:

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Why? I have my reasons.....OK fine im looking for a wallpaper. not to mention the clicks would be an added bonus to move the SFW furry art up in search rankings.

ill post the best up here in the description. REMEMBER NO NUDITY AND IT MUST BE FURRY RELATED.

Here is one that /u/KoboldCoterie had commissioned

Unknown artist

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I want the reddit furry icon... thing... The like mascot... Yeah... Help is appreciated...

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