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Papabear,

How do I deal with a "friend" with which I recently wants to break up my relationship with my mate (of 2 years)? I don't know how to deal with her because she is so immature on so many levels and I have had other problems with her before.

I first met this friend about a year ago via my mate. At first she was a really cool person, until she started to take advantage of our generosity. We would drive hours to see her because "no one would come visit her." On these visits my mate and I would pay for just about everything we did; on occasion she or one of her parents would pay for pizza. She started to blame others for all of the issues that were happening to her, like her depression coming back because her mate broke up with her. She loves to mooch off of her friends, using them for free rooms at cons that she has no money to afford to go to. She had one friend drive 7 hours to pick her up for a con and never paid her for any of the drive to or from the con. I stopped helping her with money after seeing how she treated a friend whose room we all stayed in for a con. My mate and I have tried to tell her to just save up for one or two big cons a year instead of going to all of these little cons, but she doesn't listen to us. 

My mate and I have been together now for almost 2 years, we met while in college. We have had our ups and downs but we have been able to work through them and have become closer because of them. He has always been there for me, especially when I decided to change my major and my career choice. This was really hard for me as it moved me 8 hours away from my family and friends back home. He has been my rock in these stormy past 9 months. He has been there for me and has stood beside me on all of my choices.

I first started noticing that she has wanted to be with my mate a couple of months after getting to know her. She would flirt openly with him in front of me and her (now ex) mate and many others. One night while at her house my mate asked me to check his phone for any calls and messages and I found texts from her saying "miss you sexy" and "when are you gonna come see me again (alone) hon." Needless to say, I called her out on it and, like always, she denies all of it. Ever since I have never trusted her alone with him because she can manipulate you into doing things that you normally wouldn't do without you knowing it. My mate also doesn't trust her, but it still doesn't stop her from doing this. The most recent thing that I found out is that she wants him to sneak off to see her, take her virginity, and at some point get her pregnant. I told my mate about this and he said he would tell her to back off. However, I still feel I need to address her about it but I don't know how to approach her about it.

I have never been in any sort of relationship with her (besides friendship) because I am not attracted to women in that way, whereas she claims to be bi/pan(?) sexual. My mate doesn't see how she can be attracted to him because she has never been in a serious relationship with an guy, she’s only been with women. So, if anything, she wants to be with my mate and not me. He has told me time and time again that he doesn't like her and there is no way that he can be attracted to her, but it still really bother me that she would continue to do this even though she knows he doesn't and will never be attracted to her.

I just don't know what to do. Should I drop it or should I confront her about it??

Thank you in advance for your time Papabear!!

-- Eva de Wolfsbane

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Dear Eva,

I must say, if everything you have written to me in your letter is true, then this “friend” of yours is just the sort of person who gives furries a bad name. She’s selfish, a moocher, contributes nothing to your friendship, lies, tries to break up a loving couple, isn’t good with money, blames other people for her own problems, and is apparently using sex as a weapon to hurt people. I don’t think she was ever a “cool” person, even when you first met her. She just pretended to be cool so as to lure you into the trap of a user. And that’s just what she is, a user. 

This type of parasite makes Papabear sick. I’m sorry you and your mate have gotten sucked into her machinations, mostly because you are kind people who tried to help (i.e., the perfect targets for a user). This is how users operate: they prey upon the good will and good intentions of their victims, sucking them dry, even while they make YOU feel guilty for not giving them what they want.

Papabear would rather face Darth Vader than her type because at least with a Sith lord you know your are dealing with evil. Users are backstabbing, weaselly, snakelike abominations that are highly skilled in pretending to be good people and that "everyone is against them" and they "don't understand why you have betrayed them" yadda yadda. They can make your life miserable, but only if you let them.

Should you “drop it” that she is a pain in your ass? Absolutely not. Should you confront her about it? Well, you could, but you already talked to her about her extremely inappropriate phone messages and she just denied it. Confronting her again would likely lead to more denial.

No, at this point, Eva, there is only one way to deal with a leech like this. Ignore her, stay away from her, both you and your mate. If she calls you and asks what is going on, tell her you are uncomfortable with her sexual advances on both you and your mate and have decided that it is best if you don’t hang out together any more. When she protests, stand your ground. This person is not your friend, so don’t feel guilty about telling her to go away. You don’t have to use swear words, just be polite but firm. “My mate and I really are uncomfortable with hanging out with you and we don’t want to do it any more. Good-bye.”

Ignore any further attempts on her part to call you or see you. The best way to discourage such people is to ignore them because if you continue to talk to them, even angrily, you are just validating their nasty parasite existence. She will likely play the “I hate you card,” even start spreading rumors about you and doing other such nasty things. Never acknowledge any of it. 

Dark shadows only exist if you give them a spotlight.

In the meantime, enjoy and treasure something that is an important part of your life: your loving mate. You are very lucky to have each other.

Hugs!

Papabear

So this made it to the first page of /r/WTF today, and I was pleasantly surprised that there were a lot of people defending her for being a furry, and saying it wasn't that WTF worthy.

Is it me or is the internet social stigma of being a furry letting up some?

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Author: Smokescale Aquatos Greetings and welcome once again, to… whatever this is! Our first podcast after switching officially to the new recording schedule! Next show will be on May 8th (we said the second in the show, sorry about that!). This week’s show, Kyo dives into his recent drag experiences, live, not-live, and everything in [...] Episode 82 – Just Say It!

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What are your dreams? Not dreams and hopes of the future – but feel free to share those too! – but what happens in your mind when your head hits the pillow for the night. Join us for an animated discussion of the WagzTail crew’s dreams in this episode.

Metadata and Credits WagzTail Podcast 2.0 Episode 70
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Author: Fred Back in March 2012, Flayrah had a post about the “Gag Me With a Toon 4” art exhibition at the WWA art gallery in Culver City, California. Now the WWA gallery has “Gag Me With a Toon 5” coming up, on May 4–June 1, 2013. Over fifty artists will be represented with their tributes [...]

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Divekick is an indie-developed fighting game by One True Game Studios, a group of fighting game players who decided to make their jokes into a game. The characters in the game are parodies of other famous "dive-kick" using fighters, such as Yun, Yang, Rufus, Kung Lao, Wolverine and Doctor Doom. The game features a unique gameplay style, which uses only two buttons: one for dive and one for kick.

Of the announced characters, one of those is a female Skunk Bear, whose name has been Redacted. Really, that is the character's alias. She is a mother of three, and the PS.Blog recently detailed exactly what makes the anthro skunkette beary tick:

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Health: 1,800
Power: 1,219,000,004
Bio: A pregnant Skunk Bear was forced to flee her Canadian homeland due to hunting activities. While traveling south, tired, hungry and alone, she drank some toxic waste that mutated her into a much larger, smarter form. She caught the scent of a very rare type of cigar and followed it to the hills of Bel Air, where she settled and now lives.
Date of Birth: 01/10/2000
Place of Birth: British Columbia, Canada
Blood Type: Unknown
Likes: The smell of Sensei’s cigars, chewing on Sensei’s cigars, stealing Sensei’s cigars, protecting her young, the smell of jeans
Dislikes: Cajun spices, Swiss cheese, anything with only one eye

 

The game is available to be voted on on Steam Greenlight, and has a planned release window of Summer 2013.

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Greetings and welcome once again, to… whatever this is!

Our first podcast after switching officially to the new recording schedule! Next show will be on May 8th (we said the second in the show, sorry about that!).

This week’s show, Kyo dives into his recent drag experiences, live, not-live, and everything in between! Isty informs us of how his job situation has improved considerably since last time, as well as his new living situation. He even gets into what was a rather unpleasant training experience (thanks… tech support *FROWNY FACE*). Then Halfwit mentions a recent pet peeve of hers, kids who claim they don’t care what people think about them and what a HORRIBLE IDEA that really is! Seriously! Put on deodorant! Then Smokey talks about literary stuffs, but no one cares about that. For those that do, he finished his NaNoWriMo story! He’s editing it now. Also he and Halfwit have begun their twitter-fic! Look up #methodhell to keep up!

After the music break, we had five emails. The first touched on the Boston Bombings and how Westboro Baptist peoples are butts. Next came the writer who told us about his friend who wanted to move to New Zealand in the previous show, and how his friend told him he got everything wrong. He also talked about all the crap that’s happened over the last week or so (Boston, West, etc.) and how we shouldn’t lose faith in humanity. There’s mention of Isty’s new furmeet up in Denton as well! Then, one writer gets ESPECIALLY creative and writes us a poem! Six stanzas to ask us what we think of LARPing! He then wrote in again discussing how he’s having a hard time finding what he’s good at. (Smokey almost died thanks to a ponies reference… sorry Kyo… it was laying right there!). The final email was from Rennec following up on his dad, how recovered completely from his stroke-like event! …and how he has reverted to a “I’m bulletproof!” mentality and we talk about how dangerous that is.

Next show’s topic will be an “ask us anything” show! Got something about us that you want to know? Ask away! We will answer!

Until then… stay fuzzy, my friends!

Don’t forget to vote for us in the Ursa Majors!

You might be a touch confused with this ‘hungry pumpkin’ we referenced, well boggle no more! Youtube Video of ‘The Hungry Pumpkin’ (it’s quite dreadfully made! Check out some of the youtube poops of it!)

Back during Furry Fiesta, we had a Dramatic Reading of Fifty Shades of Grey and it was quite fun! Be warned, not for wee ones. Thanks to Shyloh for recording and posting!

Music Break: Dead on the Dancefloor – Ultraviolet Sound
Music provided by Kyo this week! Yay purple moozeek!

Episode Summary Music: Crash Test Dummy Man: Mega Man 2 – OC Remix

Episode 82 – Just Say It! - Greetings and welcome once again, to… whatever this is! Our first podcast after switching officially to the new recording schedule! Next show will be on May 8th (we said the second in the show, sorry about that!). This [...]

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Author: E-Mail Hidden (..::XANA::.. Creations) http://furcast.fm/logo.jpg A near five star show with lots of stories and an extended intro segment. Enjoy! Download MP3 (Right-click, Save) Watch Video News: Inkbunny starts v2.0, T-shirt contest to celebrate 3rd year by GreenReaper Emails: Huntmiester – “Magic/psionics” Arleon Dewstar – “Men and Their Sexual Conquests” Volk – “The Blue-fection” [...] FC-121 Mormon Werewolves

Unicornatopia is a collection of artists, craft-makers, and enthusiasts dedicated to the lore of the unicorn — from Peter S. Beagle’s The Last Unicorn to My Little Pony and beyond. To that end they maintain a unicorn-themed web site, and also travel in groups to various fannish conventions to sell not only artwork but custom-made wearable unicorn horns and other crafts. Their web site is unicornatopia.com, and it includes numerous links to other unicorn-themed sites as well as various artists associated with the group.

image c. 2012 Unicornatopia

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In a Facebook post on Dust's Official Facebook page today, Dean Dodrill, the owner of Humble Hearts, detailed his progress on the Steam release:

"Not very nice of me to announce the Steam version of the game and leave everyone hanging, huh? Hopefully this update helps.

Right now the game is content complete, and I'm in the final stages of testing. While I don't have a launch date yet, I'm doing EVERYTHING in my power to have the game available sometime in May.

The game looks lovely at 1080p, and I'm actually really enjoying the mouse/keyboard controls with the revamped UI. Of course gamepad controls are in as well. The wait is nearly over, thank you for your patience!"

So, the game -may- be coming out in May, and the game now has confirmed 1080p and gamepad controls. In the comments for the story, Dean also discusses that he just started looking into pre-order/promo items, and we'll keep you updated on that. Also, he said that he's "talking to people" about fidget dolls.

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