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Dear Papabear:

I don’t exactly know how to say this, but I’m in love... and it scared the crap out of me. Let me explain:

I have a history of bad breakups (10 in all since 2009). There were only a few of them that have hurt me to the point of crying though. This last one, we had gotten together in November 2011, he seemed perfect, but slowly, I started noticing things. He would hide his phone from me when texting, he would ignore me for a week after I stayed with him for a few days. He would get jealous of my friends. Hell, he even said that if I watched porn without him, he called it cheating on him. Well, one day, he was sleeping and I snooped through his phone. I found out that I wasn’t his only boyfriend. but I was weak and kept it inside, only telling a close friend. He and I were together 6 months. then he left me, the day after my birthday (5 days after our 6 month mark) but I didn’t know until he was gone that he had left me to move in with his fiancé (he has 3, all of them in different states.) I had loaned him money that he had promised to pay back, but I know I’ll never see any of it. That leads me to my problem.

The fur that I am in love with is the very close friend that I confided this stuff to, but what scares me is my past... I don’t want what happened with my ex to happen again. Sometimes when I text the guy, I feel like I’m being annoying. I’ve thrown walls up to protect myself, but he has seemed to get past all of them and I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to be hurt again, so my question is, what do I do? I need an outside opinion and would gratefully appreciate yours.

Ingavar Khaos

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Dear Ingavar,

Here’s a little riddle for you. Say you take a die in your paw and you roll that die 10 times. Each time you roll it, the die bounces across the table and eventually settles down with the number 6 at the top. Ten rolls, ten 6’s. Now, you roll the die one more time. What are the chances that the number 6 will end up on top again?

The answer is 1 out of 6, or 16.7%.  Just because you got the same result 10 times before doesn’t change the odds to mean that landing a number 6 this next roll is a 100% possibility. Likewise, just because you had 10 bad experiences with boyfriends, doesn’t mean boyfriend Number 11 is going to be like the other 10.

My initial response to your query is that you are not giving your current boyfriend credit. He is not your last boyfriend, so why would you assume he is going to behave like your last boyfriend? A possible answer to this is that you always pick boyfriends with the same qualities and, therefore, they tend to act in a similar fashion.

What do you look for in a boyfriend, Ingavar? Some people are rather shallow when they seek out a mate, picking people based on their looks or their income or if they have a cool job. If you are one of those, then I could see why you have a bad record of picking mates.

On the other paw, you are hopefully a person who picks people who seem to have good qualities, such as intelligence, a sense of humor, and compassion. Then the explanation of your bad track record could just be bad luck, or that you are meeting people who are really good at faking sincerity and kindness.

But this person you are with now is someone who was there for you and who you felt good enough about to confide in. He even has navigated around the barriers and walls you set up to shield your emotions, penetrating them and being what sounds to me like a real cool guy. That sounds to Papabear like a very good start.

What do you do? Drop those barriers! You go into this relationship trusting your new mate. Assume that things will go well and that he is a good person. I know that, with your track record, it is hard to trust your instincts, but from what you have told me this new guy sounds like he has potential. This is a new roll of the die, and there is always a chance you’ll come up with that 6 again, but there is an even better chance you won’t.

If you go into this assuming that the relationship will fail and assuming that your new boyfriend is untrustworthy, then you will create what is called a self-fulfilling prophecy. After a while, your boyfriend will sense that you don’t trust him and that you think he will cheat on you (you are already risking this by the effort you made to shield yourself up until now). He will become resentful, wondering what he has done to be treated this way, which will lead to bitterness and, eventually, he will think to himself, “Well, if she doesn’t trust me anyway, I might as well cheat.”

Don’t do that. Like I said, time to start fresh, a blank slate, tabula rasa, as they say in literature class. This man is not your old boyfriend. Love him, trust him, go forth into your new relationship with joy and hope and your new love will feel that strong, positive energy coming off you like warm sunshine breaking through storm clouds, greatly increasing your chances of a happy romance.

Love is a risky thing, but it is worth taking another chance.

Hugs,

Papabear

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Author: Fred Wired magazine reports from the Comic-Con International just past that a My Little Pony comic book about Ponyville is coming in November from IDW Publishing. But will it be anthropomorphic? Read more: Friendship is Magic on the Printed PageEQD: My Little Pony Comic Series AnnouncedComments from artist Andy Price Find the full article [...]

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Back from San Diego Comic Con with sore feet and lots of stuff to tell you about!

First up: Among the many things at SDCC dedicated to My Little Pony — Friendship is Magic was the news that IDW Publishing will release a brand-new full-color MLP-FIM comic book series, starting up in November. The lead artist for the series is Andy Price, who since the announcement of the comic has been answering a flood of questions over on his Deviant Art page. According to him (and IDW, whom your trusty ed-otter spoke to at the con), the series will feature brand-new in-canon stories of the inhabitants of Equestria, not adaptations of the existing TV episodes. Various artists have been commissioned to create the covers for each issue. Mr. Price made it a point to note that his art for the series will be all hand-drawn and hand-colored. Check out his site or the IDW site for more news on a release date for the first issue.

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Did you know running DFB (DailyFurblog) is not just a simply looking at FA all day? Well let me tell you it’s a time taking process in so many ways. I have 3-4 others whom I work with and one includes a “KaneHusky” whom runs lots of tech stuff on the site. I myself scourer the inter-webs for furry news, from Google + to the standard FA site.Now, I do favor FA in terms of quick news, but it tends to center around just the people I watch which can suck and take time. You will never see DFB post about open/ closes commissions or live streams. I made DFB to be unique and show to furries a one stop place for blog postings, not news or media boring-ness. Much like MANY music sites which host blog posts about — music, I try my best to relate to them and their method. DFB keeps a simple page for you to scroll up and down and see info. about what is happening, you can also get convention calendars to the right of the site. Now you might ask yourself, “WHY WOULD I WATCH THIS SITE?” . Let me explain that I post things in my own terms and much like your favorite talk radio station/morning show radio I keep things real and like to spark chatter.  So it comes time now for DFB to get a little more bull penis into it’s ass.

Come Camp Feral 2012 you will see DFB’s first con book ad. I hope this will spark a light for more viewers and hell anyone who can lend a paw to give me info. The more sources I have the better the site gets. What I see for the future is  to take  it to the next level and get some famous furries for interviews. I would also like to possibly, maybe , almost and it may happen a Vblog each week which gives you highlights on the fandom via video format.

Now the new part:  From today on I will not be making post which JUST show information, but rather I am going to give my point of view on them.  Someeeeetimmeesss furries can nasty because they can’t take the criticism, so this why I did not do it in the past. However, I think it’s time for what most of us think in our own heads to come out in writing. I will not be nasty to anyone because, we know most furries do not like it.  So the posts I do make will be tame and try my best not piss off anyone. Check out the newest post and comment if you like or what not.

So as for the future and current state of DFB I will keep on trucking and keep on blogging just like any blogger would! If you would like to help please e-mail me: Syler@dailyfurblog.com (serious peeps only please).

Author: Harvi Holy mother of yiff, it’s a new episode! In this episode we introduce a newcomer to the show. FoxLord joins us in an attempt to bring back the magic that was lost when K moved away. Speaking of K, he sent us something to include in the episode. It’s part one of two. [...] Live from the Hop Inn Episode 415 – Credit Ratings

Author: admin Sorry for the delay on posting this episode – server troubles! This week’s episode starts out with Dueling Kermits; that alone should tell you how things went! We dabble in everything from Hercules to Mathcast before going on to one glaring oversight: We Received No E-Mails This Week. That’s right, both of the [...] Episode 51 – Gaping

Author: E-Mail Hidden This week on Knotcast, Fuzz, Savrin, and Shiva talk about moments of derp and have moments of derp. This weeks music is “Zoo Theory” by Anarchiemo Use our coupon code ‘knot’ at AdamEve.com for a great deal! Episode 185 – Derpageddon (AAC; 31.1 MB)Episode 185 – Derpageddon (MP3; 56.7 MB) http://www.podtrac.com/pts/redirect.m4a/www.foxstuffers.com/AAC/Episode185-Derpageddon.m4a Find [...] KnotCast: Episode 185 – Derpageddon

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Breaking the silence of the past many weeks, we bring you this powerful story of wolves and cranes, a fable of unexpected kindness amidst the food chain.

"How Cruel the Wolf" by Kadrian Blackwolf

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but how do you know if you're a furry. I know it sounds ridiculous but I've always been iffy on the subject of if I am am one. How do you officially know?

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